Boost Libido: 7 Natural Ways To Kickstart Your Sex Drive

The not-so-sexy truth: It's not always easy to get excited about sex after working a nine-hour day and ferrying around three kids. It's not always easy even if you have only one kid and didn't step outside the house all day. In general, some 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men in the United States report sexual dysfunction. The numbers are even higher for those over 50. Indeed one study of menopausal women found that nearly half reported a  decrease in sexual desire after menopause. Lots of issues contribute to the problem, including stress, smoking and hormonal imbalance.

The good news for those who have lost that loving feeling is that they can get it back. Although libido is far too complicated to be impacted by a single magical solution, here are seven natural ways recommended by various experts to increase your libido.

Have your own ideas? Let us know in comments.

1. Gaze at a photo of your significant otherA study by Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at Rutgers University, found that when people look at a photo of their loved one for 30 seconds or longer, their brain begins producing dopamine, a libido booster. Of course, I know a lot of women who'd say that gazing at a photo of Ryan Gosling might be helpful as well.

2. Stay fit and keep the weight offThis one's mostly for men: Not only will you simply feel better about yourself, but  body fat also inhibits testosterone production. And, apparently, it's really important for men to watch their waist size as belly fat absorbs testosterone more efficiently than fat cells elsewhere in the body. Both men and women will benefit from exercise, though, as aerobic workouts increase blood flow to sex organs.

3. Tickle your taste budsCertain foods including tomatoes, broccoli and pomegranate juice are supposed to give you a boost in the bedroom. On the other hand, avoid processed baked goods and dairy products -- all libido killers.

4. Trade the bubbly for some red wineNo, you shouldn't drink to excess. And don't give up champagne completely. But studies show that moderate drinkers of red wine actually have a greater sex drive than those who don't imbibe, or who drink white wine. Researchers attribute this to red wine's ability to increase blood flow as well as its color. Women apparently find men a whole lot sexier when they are wearing red. And -- no surprise here -- men also are attracted to ladies in red.

5. Spook yourself -- or your partnerStudies show that people feel more amorous after enduring an adrenaline-pumping experience such as watching a scary movie or jumping out of an airplane. When you do something a bit daring, your heart will start pumping, same as if you were sexually aroused.

6. Give (or receive) a massage
There's no doubt that massage is a good idea for couples when one is feeling particularly worried or stressed. And, with a little soft lighting, one thing can quite easily lead to another...

7. Breathe inCertain scents are known to put people in the mood immediately (stock up on cinnamon, vanilla and musk in particular). An interesting side note: A woman's sense of smell is actually stronger than a man's, especially when she's ovulating. When it comes to men, apparently they get turned on by the scent of pumpkin pie combined with lavender. Who knew?

What do you think of the above tips? Have your own ideas?

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SOURCE: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/18/boost-libido_n_3454936.html

A Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive

Know that old song, "Where Did Our Love Go?" Many women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s are asking, "Where did our sex go?" Loss of desire is common among women in the years before and after menopause. Desire problems peak between ages 35 to 64.

Hormones don't deserve all the blame, though. The causes of lost sex drive are complex. Here are some of the top factors behind "hypoactive sexual desire disorder," and what can be done.

Sex Drive Zapper: Estrogen Changes

Before menopause, your sex drive peaked just before and after you ovulated. But when your periods stop, estrogen dips, and those revved-up days in your cycle are gone.

Menopausal women may respond less to touch, too, and find it harder to get aroused. Less estrogen also means less blood flow to the vagina, and more dryness. So when you do have sex, it can hurt. Who wants sex that feels bad?

What helps:  First, stop the pain. Try over-the-counter water-based lubricants. Ask your doctor about prescription medications to fight dryness: There are oral drugs available, as well as vaginal creams, which have fewer side effects than oral hormones.

Traditional hormone replacement therapy doesn't seem to kindle desire for most women. What it can do is ease hot flashes and other symptoms that leave you feeling not-so-sexy. 

Sex Drive Zapper: Life Stress

At midlife, many women are deep into a marriage, a job, raising teens, and caregiving. Any of these can amp up stress, and stress puts your sex drive in park. Avoiding sex can, in turn, cause tension with your partner. Low desire is more common in long-term relationships. Because all this happens at once, it may seem like menopause is the cause, but there are many factors.

What helps: Take the focus off intercourse. Spend more time on foreplay and try other kinds of sex play, such as massage and oral sex. Seek out short-term couples counseling when your sex life hits a rough patch.

Sex Drive Zapper: Androgen Changes

In both sexes, desire tends to fall as we get older. Women are two to three times more prone to a drop in desire. In part, blame dropping androgens -- male hormones that are also found in women.

What helps: There's no FDA-approved male hormone therapy for women with sexual problems, but some doctors prescribe creams off-label for some women. The major problem with this type of treatment in women is the side effects, which include acne and excess body and facial hair. Being mindful of diet, sleep, and exercise can help restore libido.

There's good news about aging and sex, too: Time. Many women report feeling an uptick in desire after menopause.

Sex Drive Zapper: Depression -- and Depression Meds

Menopause doesn't cause depression. But women do get it more than men, and the peak years --between ages 40 and 59 -- coincide with menopause. Since your whole body is a sex organ, when depression sends body chemicals out of whack, desire is affected, too.

It doesn't help that some common antidepressants can mute desire and slow sexual response. Many women who are not depressed are prescribed these types of drugs for hot flashes and other menopause symptoms. Though the pills fix these problems, they can make desire tank.

What helps:  See a doctor about treating depression with both pills and talk therapy. Some antidepressants cause fewer sexual side effects.

Sex Drive Zappers: Other Factors in Your Head and Body

If graying hairs, sore muscles, and dry skin make you see yourself as "old," you're less apt to see yourself as "hot."

Women may also blame menopause for a low sex drive when other health problems are the real cause. Common culprits: Bladder problems, underactive thyroid, and iron-deficiency anemia.

What helps: Get a medical checkup to make sure there's nothing else going on. As for self-esteem, don't believe that only a svelte starlet can be sexy. Treat your body well, making time for self-care and time for sex.

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SOURCE: http://www.webmd.com/menopause/menopause-and-sex-13/sex-drive-and-menopause?page=2

How Do Sexual Problems Affect Women?

The most common problems related to sexual dysfunction in women include:

• Inhibited sexual desire: This involves a lack of sexual desire or interest in sex. Many factors can contribute to a lack of desire, including hormonal changes, medical conditions and treatments (for example cancer andchemotherapy), depression,pregnancy, stress, and fatigue. Boredom with regular sexual routines also may contribute to a lack of enthusiasm for sex, as can lifestyle factors, such as careers and the care of children.
• Inability to become aroused: For women, the inability to become physically aroused during sexual activity often involves insufficient vaginal lubrication. The inability to become aroused also may be related to anxiety or inadequate stimulation. In addition, researchers are investigating how blood flow problems affecting the vagina and clitoris may contribute to arousal problems.
• Lack of orgasm (anorgasmia): This is the absence of sexual climax (orgasm). It can be caused by sexual inhibition, inexperience, lack of knowledge, and psychological factors such as guilt, anxiety, or a past sexual trauma or abuse. Other factors contributing to anorgasmia include insufficient stimulation, certain medications, and chronic diseases.
• Painful intercourse: Pain during intercourse can be caused by a number of problems, including endometriosis, a pelvic mass, ovarian cysts, vaginitis, poor lubrication, the presence of scar tissue from surgery or a sexually transmitted disease. A condition called vaginismus is a painful, involuntary spasm of the muscles that surround the vaginal entrance. It may occur in women who fear that penetration will be painful and also may stem from a sexual phobia or from a previous traumatic or painful experience.

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SOURCE:http://www.medicinenet.com/sexual_sex_problems_in_women/page2.htm#how_do_sexual_problems_affect_women

Five Embarrassing Male Sexual Issues

To stay fit in the bedroom, sometimes you need expert advice. Don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor about these performance issues.

BY SHAWN RADCLIFFE

If you want to keep bringing your A-game to the bedroom, sometimes you need more than just experience and time on the “field.” When facing a “batting slump” or other problem that prevents you from having sex, it’s time to call in an expert.

In addition to damaging your ego, sexual issues may signal more serious health conditions. In most cases, these can be treated. Don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor early on to determine the underlying cause, and develop a plan of action. We talked to Dr. Culley Carson III, a urologist at the University of North Carolina School of Medicine, about the five most common sexual problems men encounter, and what you can do.

Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction, also known as impotence, involves not being able to achieve or maintain enough of an erection to have sex. This is more than just a quality of life issue, though.

To sustain an erection, the penis needs good blood flow. Erectile dysfunction, therefore, “can be the first sign of significant cardiac or vascular disease,” says Dr. Carson.

According to Dr. Carson, studies have shown that the majority of men seen in the emergency room for a cardiac event—such a heart attack or stroke—suffered from erectile dysfunction three to five years earlier.

Treatment for erectile dysfunction involves first determining the underlying cause. This includes dealing with obesity, smoking, cholesterol, and other risk factors for cardiovascular disease.

In addition to modifying your lifestyle, there are several drugs available to treat erectile dysfunction, including Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis.

Testosterone Deficiency Syndrome

Testosterone deficiency syndrome, or hypogonadism, can affect not only your sexual performance, but also your bone health, energy level, muscle strength, and mood.

If you are having difficulty achieving or maintaining erections, your doctor may also order a simple morning blood test to rule out low testosterone as the underlying cause.

Testosterone replacement therapy—such as with a gel—can help alleviate symptoms. Regular follow-up, though, is needed to ensure that you reach a reasonable range of testosterone, not an “NFL kind of level,” says Dr. Carson.

Not all men with low testosterone, however, experience symptoms. In that case, it’s best to leave things alone.

Peyronie’s Disease

Peyronie’s disease involves a narrowing or curvature of the penis. If severe enough, this condition can be painful, and may also prevent you from having sex.

Deformation of the penis is caused by scar tissue—possibly the result of a previous injury—that appears as a hard lump, more frequently on the upper side of the penis. In most cases, pain during erection goes away after one or two years, although the curvature usually remains.

In the past, surgery was one of the few treatment options available, with a risk of significant side effects. New methods are currently being tested, though, such as compounds that can be injected into the scar tissue to straighten the penis.

Prolonged Erection (Priapism)

Men who experience an erection lasting more than four hours should seek help in the emergency room. Treatment needs to occur within eight hours of the start of an erection to avoid permanent damage to the penis.

One cause of prolonged erections is medication used to treat erectile dysfunction. This is a rare side effect of pills like Viagra, but occurs more frequently when this type of drug is injected directly into the penis. This condition can also occur as a result of certain psychiatric medications, cocaine use, or sickle cell disease.

Treatment options include draining excess blood from the penis with a needle, medication to limit blood flow into the penis, or surgery.

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4 Healthy Ways to Make Sex Feel Better Tonight

By Amy Levine, MA, CSE, Special to Everyday Health

S-E-X.

Three simple letters that elicit myriad thoughts and feelings. Sex has the potential to involve all of the senses, turn us on, happen solo or with a partner, allow us the opportunity to give and to receive, and be incredibly pleasurable. But for many people, sex isn’t the connected and fulfilling experience we know is possible. Sometimespain or discomfort is to blame. Other times it’s sabotaged by common issues like body-bashing thoughts, anxiety, or stress. Often with subtle adjustments, sex can feel and be a lot better.

As a sex coach, I often play detective with my clients to figure out what they need to elevate their sexual experiences. Here are some of the solutions I share with them that I think will help you have a more pleasurable sex life too.

1. Sex Shouldn’t Require Mind-Reading

Here’s a four-letter word that will make sex better: T-A-L-K.

We can’t expect our partners to read our minds. It’s essential we know what we need, want, and desire. Communication is directly related to our pleasure potential.

Sexual Solution: Know your erogenous areas. If you’re not sure what turns you on, make time for solo sessions to explore every inch of your skin. Feel the webbing of your fingers and toes, trace your finger down the outermost part of your ear, stroke your thighs, and then go for the obvious “feel good” areas. When you know what you like, tell your partner. Or show him or her what feels best by putting your hand over theirs, guiding them to the spot and showing them how to mimic the motions.

If you feel self-conscious, experience stress, anxiety, pain or discomfort, speak up as it arises during physical intimacy. Say something (like, “please stop I’m in pain, etc” or “let’s slow down”) or do what’s needed (like, shift your body) to feel at ease in the moment. Then, so it doesn’t create frustration, talk with your partner outside the bedroom at another time. Together come up with possible solutions or find an expert to help you navigate the situation.

2. Use the Right Lubricant

Dryness, like wetness, can come and go throughout a sexual encounter no matter how turned on you may be. Also, women rarely get the 20 minutes of foreplay (kissing, fooling around, or oral sex) needed to increase arousal and feel more connected. That said, there are manyhealth conditions and circumstances that make it difficult to produce ample amounts of lubrication, if at all.

The most common culprits: hormonal shifts (including childbirth, breastfeeding, and menopause); allergies; anti-estrogen drugs and other medications and supplements; medical treatments (including radiation and chemotherapy); and surgical procedures (like removal of the ovaries).

Sexual Solution: Wetter can feel better. Add a lubricant during solo and partnered sex, whether it’s for vulva or vaginal touch or penetration (start with a squirt of lube the size of a dime and increase the amount as needed. Use it on your vulva and vagina where you’re being stimulated or on his penis).

There are three common types of lubricants — water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based. It’s best to use liquid instead of a messy jelly consistency. When buying lube, select a vagina-friendly brand (without glycerin and chemicals you can’t pronounce). Organic brands, like Yes, are a great option. If you’re using latex condoms, avoid oil-based lubricants like baby oil, body lotion, or lubes. As a side note, don’t use silicone-based lubes with silicone toys, as it causes the toys to deteriorate.

3. Get That Itching and Burning Checked Out

Itching and burning could be the sign of infection for both men and women, and it’s best to go to your doc to find out what’s behind it. If it coincides with sex, and you know it’s not a recurring yeast, bacterial, or viral infection, it could be an allergy to latex or nonoxynol 9 (N-9), a spermicidal lubricant often found on condoms and used with a cervical cap or diaphragm. Ifvaginal dryness is the culprit, lube is a likely remedy.

Sexual Solution: Switch to a different type of condom. The other options are polyurethane, polyisoprene, and lambskin. A few things to keep in mind: Polyurethane and lambskin can be used with oil-based lube. And lambskin condoms only reduce the risk of pregnancy, not sexually transmitted diseases (if a partner is infected). If N-9 allergy seems to be an issue, find condoms that don’t have spermicidal lubricant on them. And switch from a cervical cap or diaphragm to a different method of contraception.

4. Do Something Different

Sometimes it’s a shift in position or being adventurous by trying something new that can instantly make sex more satisfying and exciting.

Sexual Solution: When you’re in any sexual position, try shifting — up, down, right, or left — to elevate arousal or minimize musculoskeletal or myofascial discomfort and pain. For some situations — such as when, during doggy style, his penis is hitting your cervix and creating a cramping sensation — a shift can make a change in a split second. Propping problem areas under pillows can also make sex more comfortable.

Since most women don’t climax from vaginal penetration alone, focus on the clitoris. After all, the sole purpose of this hot spot is for pleasure. Using a sex toy like the popular “bullet” shape — which easily slides between two people — boosts your arousal and increases your orgasmic ability. Or discover other erogenous areas like the g-spot, which can be detected once you’re turned on.

For guys who have trouble maintaining an erection, a penis ring made of soft material can do the trick. And his prostate is likely his most sensitive spot if he let’s you explore.

Fantasy, whether it’s a thought of something sexy or erotic that’s happened in the past or a mental movie of something you want to unfold, can fast-track desire and arousal from 0 to 60. And role-playing, whether you’re pretending to be someone or somewhere else, can reinvigorate a sexual relationship. Especially if you’re adding something fun like light bondage to your sack session, after being inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey on date night.

Amy Levine, MA, CSE, is a sex coach featured in magazines including Glamour, Health, and SELF. In her SPARK and IGNITE coaching sessions, Amy helps people solve their most intimate sexual dilemmas, inspiring them to become empowered in and out of bed. Get tips and learn more at Igniteyourpleasure.com.

SOURCE: http://www.everydayhealth.com/columns/health-answers/ways-make-sex-feel-better-tonight/

3 Steps to Take if Your Libido Is More Active Than Your Partner's

Low sex drive is only a problem if someone is unhappy about it, and that's usually the other partner in a relationship. "When you get two people with low libidos, they just go to sleep at night. That's not an issue," says Irwin Goldstein, MD, director of San Diego Sexual Medicine and the editor in chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine. "Libido is really only associated with distress when there's a disparity with the partner." 

If the unevenness of your desires has become a problem in your relationship, here are a few ways to approach it. 

1. Talk to each other 
Sometimes the problem is clear and just needs discussing, says Joy Davidson, PhD, a New York City–based psychologist who's on the board of directors of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. An example of this, she says, would be "the woman gets off on oral sex and the man doesn't like to do it. Not being able to talk about sex is like not being able to discuss what you're having for dinner. And just like any other aspect of a relationship, that's a potential deal-breaker. If there's a sexual problem, you have to deal with it." 

If you're the one who wants more sex, don't blame your partner or apply pressure tactics, advises Davidson: "That only pushes the other person away." If your partner is stressed about life outside your relationship, a first step might be to look for ways to lighten his or her load, so sex can become recreation, not another chore. 

2. The partner with a low libido should get a medical checkup
Low sex drive, especially in conjunction with erectile dysfunction (ED), could indicate a serious health problem such as heart disease or diabetes.

3. See a therapist 
Even if there is a medical issue afoot, disparate sex drives can create an emotional problem in a relationship. That's why many sexual health doctors take a "bio-psycho-social" approach, says Michael Krychman, MD, executive director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine in Newport Beach, Calif. They either make some psychological assessments themselves or work hand-in-hand with certified sex therapists. 

If you're the partner who wants more sex and you choose couples therapy or sex therapy, don't make it about your partner, says Davidson—make it about the relationship: "[As in] 'we seem to have different needs sexually, and we'd both like to find ways to bridge the gap.'"

http://www.health.com/health/condition-article/0,,20188137,00.html

Help for Orgasm Difficulties

By Diana Rodriguez


Your doctor can help when there's a physical issue, and a sex therapist can teach you how to have orgasms when the problem is psychological.


Sex is fun, feels good, and is a great way to be physically and emotionally close to your partner. But without an orgasm, it can be a less satisfying experience for both people involved. There could be physical or emotional reasons why you're not experiencing a sexual climax, but the right diagnosis and possibly sex therapy can teach you how to orgasm and have a satisfying sexual relationship.

Help is available for both sexes because this isn’t always a female orgasm issue. While some women may have difficulty achieving an orgasm and may never have truly experienced one, men can have orgasm difficulties as well, especially if there are physical or emotional issues at play in the relationship.

Problems That Keep People From Having Orgasms

• The variety of problems related to a lack of orgasm include:
• Not having an orgasm at all
• Having a delayed orgasm — taking a long time or needing a lot of stimulation to achieve orgasm
• Not having a satisfactory orgasm
• Delayed ejaculation
• Ejaculation without orgasm

Some potential causes of these problems in women and men are:

• A problem in the relationship
• Boredom in the bedroom
• An emotional or physical trauma, like rape or abuse
• Health conditions that affect nerves or hormone levels
• Being shy or embarrassed about sex
• Lack of education about orgasms, sex, and what stimulation works best for you
• Side effects of certain medications, including some antidepressants

Fear can keep both sexes from experiencing orgasm, says marriage and family therapist Isadora Alman, MFT, a board-certified sexologist and psychotherapist in private practice in Alameda, Calif. "Being afraid of letting go, afraid of going crazy — fear, in other words," says Alman.

Another explanation: "Physiologically, it may just be that they're not getting the right stimulation," says Alman. If either a man or a woman is used to achieving an orgasm with his or her own hand, someone else's touch and body part might seem strange, she explains.

Diagnosing the Problem

Many doctors and even certain therapists don't have training in sexuality and sexual problems, says Alman. If you're experiencing difficulty achieving an orgasm, seeing a sex therapist may help root out the reason and get the right treatment. A sex therapist can also help determine if you’re having a physical problem, says Alman, and recommend that you see a physician.



To help identify the problem, says Alman, a sex therapist will ask about your sexual history. Be prepared for topics to include a frank discussion of your current partners, your masturbation practices, and the nature of your symptoms. A sex therapist will also ask about your expectations of sex and what you want to achieve in your sex life.

Solutions That Will Help

If there is a medical problem to blame, you doctor will prescribe the appropriate treatment. And if the cause is psychological, working with a sex therapist can help.

For the female orgasm, Alman says a woman should learn how to orgasm by herself and realize exactly what kind of stimulation it takes, including whether she needs to fantasize in order to have an orgasm.

Says Alman, "Once she knows physically that she needs ‘x’ amount of stimulation, she should look at what's going on in her relationship. Is she comfortable asking for what she wants? First it's physiological, and then it's relational."

For men, the process is similar. Alman says she'll ask about a male patient’s masturbation processes and what feels different when he's masturbating than when having intercourse with a partner.

Part of the solution is the same for men and women — when it comes to sex, Alman says you've got to talk about it with your partner. Whether you want to achieve multiple orgasms or just feel uninhibited in the bedroom, you've got to be open about your wants and needs. "There's just no way to get from here to there without talking about it," Alman explains.

While it's very normal to be embarrassed to talk about these intimate issues or be afraid of your partner's reaction, you have to open up. If you can’t relax because of some unresolved problem between you — even if it’s because the house is a mess and that bothers you, you must address it if you want to have a satisfying sexual experience.

Talk about what you want, what you like, and what you need because if orgasm difficulties are affecting you, they're also affecting your partner. Talking about sex and intimacy will only bring you closer together, and help ignite the fireworks you’re looking for in the bedroom.

Source: http://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/sexual-dysfunction/orgasm-difficulties.aspx